Dr. Barbara Collins | “Feeling the Love” of Facebook
Dr. Barbara Collins is a midlife transition expert.
Midlife, Tranisition, Menopause
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“Feeling the Love” of Facebook


When I first discovered Facebook, I was not “feeling the love” to connect on Facebook (fb). Why was it important to have a minute-to-minute update as to what people were doing and feeling? I couldn’t imagine how people found the time to write on fb. I was skeptical. It was too technical for me. I didn’t feel safe. I didn’t have much to share or say on fb.

Many of my friends and family were on fb. Sharing fun and inspiring information in their lives seemed to be the norm. People were connecting to old friends from high school or college. I was beginning to feel left out of this fast growing technology.

But, was fb really for me? How could fb enrich my life as I age?

I read an article headline, “At 102, Lefty Gray’s musings earn him a Facebook following,” and the word “love” caught my attention. These days loving what I’m doing is important – life is short with enough challenges. Time is precious. So I decided to dig deep into Facebook and see if it was for me.

Here’s what I discovered on fb:

  • Keep an Open Mind – This is an understatement because I’m technically challenged. Be patient and you will learn your way around.
  • Share the Love – My daughter kept reminding to “like” when I enjoy reading a post. It’s called “sharing the love” – there’s that word again “love.”
  • It’s about Communication – It can be disconcerting to know that people really want to know about my life.  They want to know what is happening with ME and with YOU!
  • Clear Expectations – Being clear why fb should be a part of my life was important. I didn’t want fb in my life just because it’s the thing to do.
  • Exercise the Brain– Research states that cognitive skills may increase connecting on fb. This was a big attraction.
  • Practice Safety – Ask family members or friends to help you create a safe connection of fb. You are entitled to privacy on fb and that is important. Restricting who sees my posts made me feel more in control.

I’m now on fb. I get love, inspiration, smiles and joy connecting with friends and family. I share my joy, love and gratitude with people and guess what? I get love returned. In my book, “It’s Your Turn: Find Your Authentic Self and Go Fetch It?”, I wrote that I discovered that one of my natural strengths was organizing great parties. Several friends from high school found me on fb and shared how they will always remember the fun parties when we were in high school. So neat!

Facebook is not just for personal connections; it’s for business too.  I created a business fb – Positive Trends, Inc. for women over 50. I decided that fb increases my work with women, and is a great marketing tool.

Facebook is worth giving my brain some love during the day. Facebook doesn’t work for everyone. Yes, there a few posts you would rather not see, but you can delete. Try fb and see if you “feel the love.”