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Dr. Barbara Collins is a midlife transition expert.
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Author: Dr. Barbara Collins

  “Thank you for taking the shackles off my wrist”   A physician shared these comments after a presentation to mothers of children attending a leadership conference. You’re thinking about leaving a stressful career. You’re making money to afford a beautiful home. Your family can travel for vacation almost anywhere in...

    Three Words That Will Change Your Life   “It’s Your Time” are words you hear but maybe ignore the message.   I’m working with a great consultant creating my dream project.  “It’s Your Time” is a screenshot on my phone reminding me now is the time Good music soothes...

  There are certain days when stress makes you feel like a "hot mess" and frustrated. You feel frustrated not knowing how to feel better. Creating simple and pleasurable experiences relieves stress and feels empowering because you control what makes you feel good. Knowing who you...

I thought about the words in my book “Power in Midlife and Beyond.”  “Getting out of our comfort zone means experiencing life as though it was an adventure to discover more about you.” Life is moving towards finality no matter where you are in midlife...

  NOT YET! are powerful words when experiencing a change in your life. Let’s agree that change is relative, different experiences for everyone. Let’s agree on nothing going to happen until we take action. Right? Great! William Bridges, in his book Managing Transitions – Making the Most...

“It Ain’t Gonna Happen Unless You Make It Happen” - Three ways be a better you in 2019 Move Your Body – Stretch, walk, dance, or vacuum with a purpose. Just move! I’m a big believer that sitting still for too long is not good period. Check...

  What does being human mean? Scott Peck author of The Road Less Traveled writes ”Life is difficult” in the first sentence. I read his book almost 20 years ago, and still remember the first sentence. Depending on your perspective being human can be difficult at...

    It's Never Too Late to Write Your Story Dr. Eric Maisel’s book Write Mind: 299 Things Writers Should Never Say to Themselves http://ericmaisel.com/books was instrumental in writing my first book It’s Your Turn:  Find Your Authentic Self and Fetch It!  I learned how to think...

  Thoughts matter getting older. Greek philosopher Marcus Aurelius quotation “Our life is what our thoughts make it” is on my bathroom sink. Gratitude, peace, and fulfillment are thoughts to create a meaningful life. Notes in a gratitude journal is a reminder to live a meaningful life....

“Queen of Soul” Aretha Franklin “Skylark” – Lyrics by Hoagy Carmichael “Respect” (1967) – Recording of a piece by Otis Redding “Amazing Grace” (1972) – John Newton “My Country” Tis of Thee.” Samuel Francis Smith – Aretha Franklin sang at Barack Obama’s presidential inauguration ceremony (2009). Oh my, she...

Mindful Meditation created a life that lessens stress in my What Now? In 1995, I went on a quest to find a meditation practice. I resisted meditation due to the perception that meditation is a religion, and you have to sit for a long time....

Wisdom is our gift to the world. Using effective communication enhances our wisdom words in conversations. We own the right in our longevity to cherish our values and beliefs. When we communicate our values and beliefs, sometimes the conversation may feel uncomfortable or contentious. It's challenging...

Dear Friends, What was your guess, 50, 60? I read an article written by Sarah Boseley, in The Guardian, Jan 5, 2012,“Memory loss can begin at age 45, scientist says.”  The article focused on the Whitehall II study that released scientific evidence that memory loss begins at...

My gift is not tangible, but I think this gift is worth checking out. Here it is! Go into a private room. Look in the mirror – eyes looking straight ahead - stand up tall – shoulders back – back straight. There you go!  You look...

What was the best compliment you ever received? Why is this question good for our health? “What is the best compliment you received?”, Is a question not typically asked in conversations? I’ve asked women this question in many seminars for the past twenty years. Noticeably, there...

  Caregiving After caregiving an increasingly difficult mother; she didn’t want to put her kids through the same ordeal. Writing a letter to her adult children about her future self in later years would help them during notoriously difficult times when she should stop driving, move out...

Happy New Year! We can change our thoughts. That’s our work to change how we see ourselves. What now? Can be a difficult question to ponder before and after retirement. Deciding to end a job after working many years may be delayed because of fear. Fear of...

Get Out of Your Comfort Zone - Maybe it's time Getting out of our comfort zone is an empowering goal for 2018.  The new year is an opportunity to explore goals to unleash natural strengths and talents. Unleashing our authentic self is experiencing life as though it were...

  Getting Older “Play to Your Strengths –Something that challenges you a bit” Dr. Brenda Milner, Neuroscientist I was thrilled to read an article, by Sari Harrar, in the October issue AARP Bulletin. Harrar, interviewed Dr. Brenda Milner, pioneer neuroscientist, whose groundbreaking research helped to unlock the...

My mother and both grandmothers were major influences to create a meaningful life while getting older. Living unique lives with faith in God helped me imagine a life worth living. Mother received her Master's Degree in Gerontology at age 60. She was Director of a Senior...

  For many of my blog subscribers, summer is almost over.  I hope summer met your expectations spending quality time doing what you love.  My trip to Israel with my daughter was one of the most amazing experiences. Israel opened my eyes to another part of...

Friends in our past can slip away while getting older. Life kicks in and memories about old friends may fade away. Maybe you remember how your friend supported you during a tough time. Or you recall someone that always made you laugh. Sometimes a reason...

Dear Friends, I was shopping at Wegman’s yes, I admit my favorite food store. A woman was reaching for an air freshner. All of a sudden the entire shelf of air fresheners came tumbling down. She laughed watching them fall all over the floor. While picking...

Decreasing stress during these uncertain times is critical for good health. Stress is linked to major illnesses, heart disease, cancer, and depression.One of the ways I relieve stress is by creating a "Personal Board of Directors" (PBOD). My PBOD are people that play a significant role...

As we age a doctor will typically ask the history of disease in your family when trying to diagnose an illness.  The history of family disease is important information for health aging. I’m not a medical doctor or an expert how knowing your DNA relates to...

I did not write my blog for December because I wanted to take a break from any external chatter like smart phones, Facebook, texting, and TV shows that didn’t comfort me. I needed to rest my brain from all incoming information. I remember an idea that...

Not long ago in the airport, while waiting for my flight, I overheard a conversation between two women seated next to me. One woman was looking through a magazine and commenting on how all these new face lift procedures are very intimidating. She was trying...

I met a lovely lady while eating dinner in Hilton Head, S.C. Waiting for our dinner we shared a few thoughts about getting older. Before she left the restaurant she put this note in my hand, “Growing old is natural. Growing up is spiritual.“ I...

Retirement: time to relax, rest, pursue new hobbies, travel and potentially, argue! Argue? Perhaps, arguing during retirement seems far-fetched to you? However, married couples have different expectations as they face retirement which can lead to tension. Many things change; identities are shifted; work life is...

I recently went to Harlem, New York, to see the wonderful musical, “Alive! 55+ and Kickin” performed at the Dempsey Theater. The play is a musical conceived and written by Vy Higginsen and Ken Wydro. I was thoroughly entertained and inspired! In April, 60 Minutes aired...

“Strong Like Bull” is a diverse, aging, funny, and active group of friends that meet at our local Y. We move our bodies, well, any part of our body that is willing to participate. There is no scheduled time to meet. It’s great when two...

I once met a woman after speaking at a conference who thanked me for removing the “shackles” from her wrists. What a powerful word. My presentation, It's Your Turn: Find Your Authentic Self, made her realize that all her life, she felt she was living someone else’s dream. She...

A major fear of aging women is being alone. Staying engaged is one of the major predictors of living a healthier, longer life. According to the Administration on Aging, 37% of women in the U.S. over 60 live by themselves. Are you lonely? Are you fearful...

A woman was unfortunately laid off from her job. She did not receive a severance package, just a goodbye and a thank you for her 15 years of service. She needed to pay her bills and rent. Survival was her main goal. This woman loved baking...

When I first discovered Facebook, I was not "feeling the love" to connect on Facebook (fb). Why was it important to have a minute-to-minute update as to what people were doing and feeling? I couldn’t imagine how people found the time to write on fb....

[caption id="attachment_15554" align="alignnone" width="300"]  [/caption] After I retired, I explored several options on what to do next — teach graduate school, consult or write my first book. My daughter suggested modeling. She was attending law school in New York and modeling herself at the time. She said her...

One day on a train to New York, I engaged in a conversation about aging with a woman in her mid- to late-50s. We started by sharing our common connections on getting older. We laughed about the sudden pains that have appeared in places not...

One day I was waiting in line at the Post Office. The line was so long, I was tired and stressed out. I wanted to just leave, but I needed to get an important document in the mail. I thought, "This is not working for...

A cardiologist once told me that speaking what’s in your heart creates a healthier heart.   It is also an act of loving yourself. You may have noticed that’s it’s been awhile since I launched my blog in May.  Life kicked in with a major health crisis...

Tony Robbins once said, “There is no such thing as failure, only results.” That quotation hit close to home at midlife when I tried photography and failed. Or I should say, I realized photography wasn’t a natural strength. During a difficult time in my life, I enrolled...

I met a wonderful woman at a crafts show who was knitting the most beautiful hand knitted scarf.   Her hair was strikingly gray with the most peaceful and gentle smile. She looked like she was enjoying her knitting craft. People passing by were taking a...